7 miscarriages … moving on to donor eggs
Having been an avid reader of many fertility and miscarriage blogs for quite some time, I’ve decided to take the plunge and start one of my own. Is it worth going back over the months since my first miscarriage in Autumn 04? Via miscarriages 2-6 (February, April, July and December 05, September 06), touching on miscarriage no 7 (February 07)
Or shall I start with our decision (taken between miscarriages 6 and 7) to try a round of IVF, eggs donated by a younger friend. I’ll start there because hopefully that will be the theme for the rest of the blog. I need to mention that we do have one child, born in 2003 when I was 37. He’s almost 4 now.It’s just our attempts since to produce him a sibling, started when I was 39, that have led us to this point. 42 in April and all we have to show for our temping and OPKs and sterling efforts to Do The Deed at the right times, is a folder full of failed early scans, discharge after d&cs, and test results. I’m normal (albeit with rather sticky blood, treated with blood thinning injections), DP is normal. Last two embryos, Not Normal. Too Many Chromosomes. Advanced Maternal Age.
Being the sort of person who takes numbers very much to heart, my investigations into the likely success rate of IVF with PreImplantation Genetic Selection led me straight to Donor Eggs via High FSH, Likely Poor Responder, and do not pass go.
Then I stumbled onto an article about Donor Eggs Abroad, waiting lists here in the UK being 2-3 years. And just as we’d got our head round that, a chance mention to a close friend, with a son the same age as mine and a little girl too, led her to offer her eggs.
So before Christmas we started the ball rolling with blood tests, sperm analysis as required for the three of us (blood tests, me, DP, KF (Kind Friend), SA – just DP of course…)
I felt a huge huge feeling of relief. At last something CONCRETE we could do. And if it fails, then that is clearly The End Of The Road.
Update May 07: we survived the IVF cycle. Kind Friend overstimulated and was quite unwell after producing 36 eggs, 30 of which fertilised.
2 good embryos were transferred to me, unsuccessfully. We’re now planning an immediate FET with some of our 27 frozen embryos.
Update August 07: Our FET has resulted in a BFP… watch this space
If you’d like to know a bit more about my innermost pysche … here is
an interview with me…
Update May 2010: On our way again, pregnant with a singleton after FET no 2 (we love our twins so much, born April 08)